Aj vy sa určite dennodenne stretávate na sociálnych sieťach s fotografiami, na ktoré keď sa pozriete, poviete si „wau“. Dokonalá postava, šťastný zamilovaný pár, nádherné pozadie, jednoducho všetko zachytené v dokonalom okamihu. Vytvoriť dokonalú fotografiu si vyžaduje veľa úsilia, veď to poznáme všetci. Kým sa rozhodneme uverejniť nejakú našu, tiež sa odfotíme viackrát, použijeme filtre a snažíme sa dosiahnuť tú neexistujúcu dokonalosť.

Eventually we all have to accept full and total responsibility for our actions, everything we have done, and have not done. I’m trying. . I’ve spent the last few weeks finding something or someone to blame for how I feel. Someone to blame for the mess I’ve made, the struggles I have and the pain I’m feeling. It’s a natural human response but it’s done nothing but leave me bitter, suicidal and stuck. It’s helped nothing and no one. . Last night I wrote down everything that I want to take responsibility for. I wasn’t sure how I’d cope with it, I thought I’d end up hating myself even more but I felt a sense of relief, a weight lifted. I’m still hurting, low and struggling to know who I am but now I can work on changing and bettering the bits of me that caused me and the ones I love so dearly the pain in the first place. . Whilst my mental health isn’t my fault or something I should blame myself for it is something I can take responsibility for and get the appropriate help. Taking responsibility doesn’t make things right but it’s a good step to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

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Blogggerka Millie Smith sa ale rozhodla bojovať proti stereotypom a ukazuje život taký, aký v skutočnosti naozaj je. A my samozrejme v ňom. Tieto fotografie si získali tisíce ľudí po celom svete a sú naozaj dôvtipné. Millie nás inšpirovala k tomu, aby sme sa zamysleli nad skutočnosťou na internete a skutočnosťou v živote. Motivačné fotografie dostanú aj vás.

Instagram/Skutočnosť

Just a same girl, same day, different pose reminder that our bodies look different in different angles and that it's perfectly ok, normal and natural. You don't need to look like anybody else but YOU ❤ 💛 I get asked a lot recently how to start a Bopo insta page as they want confidence. I often come up with nothing because I'm not entirely sure I understand. 💛 Are they asking me how to get started on a journey to self love or just how to start an insta page to get justification that their body is worthy in hope it will bring them self love? 💛 Before I put my photos and words out onto Instagram I started my journey to self love with myself; I mean it's still a very personal journey but I want to share it now and help others too. I took photos and wrote down love notes to my body without showing them to a soul- it was just for my soul and my mind. 💛 Starting an insta page could help you on your journey of course but your motives are what's important- know what they are before starting is my advice. Maybe do it off social media first and get a feel for your journey and what works/doesn't work for you and do it for YOU. Do it for your soul. Your follower count doesn't matter or make you more or less worthy. 10,000 people telling you your pretty wont bring about self love either. It's so much more than that and it starts deep inside yourself not with your aesthetics. Bopo isn't a 'trend'. 💛 It's not about how many you can impress, you need to be impressing yourself. Make yourself proud.

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V ten istý deň

Same girl, same day, same time. 💛 Not a before and after. Not a weight loss transformation. Not a diet company promotion. 💛 I am comfortable with my body in both. Neither is more or less worthy. Neither makes me more or less of a human being. Neither invites degrading comments and neither invites sleezy words. 💛 We are so blinded to what a real unposed body looks like and blinded to what beauty is that people would find me less attractive within a 5 second pose switch! How insanely ridiculous is that!? 💛 I love taking these, it helps my mind so much with body dysmorphia and helps me rationalise my negative thoughts. 💛 Don't compare, just live for you. There is no one on this planet who's like you and that's pretty damn amazing don't ya think. The world doesn't need another copy, it needs you. 💛 We are worthy, valid and powerful beyond measure 💙🌟 (If you don't pull your tights up as high as possible are you really human?)

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Uvoľnený vs. napnutý

Every time I log into Instagram I see some variation of fitness model posing with a booty pop. 〰 The expectations of women's butts or what's seen as attractive has been basically narrowed down to tiny waist, big, round butt with no cellulite. (I mean, fuck what's 'seen as attractive' anyways but the pressure is real and affecting many) We see it everywhere 'squat for the perfect booty' 'she squats bro' URGH. 〰 The thing is… all butts are beautiful. Big Small Flat Round Cellulite Smaller than hips Bigger than hips Etc etc etc etc. Literally no exceptions. 〰 Our butts look different in different clothing, poses and underwear and that's cool. 〰 Just remember, poses and filters make bodies look entirely different and cellulite is cute and normal. Don't compare yourself to anyone.

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Rozdiel medzi týmito fotografiami je len 30 sekúnd

Same girl, same body, same place, same time. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO POSED PHOTOGRAPHS! STOP COMPARING YOURSELF AT ALL! YOU ARE YOU! Neither pose makes me a better person, neither pose defines my worth. When we can change our bodies this much in a photograph we can see even more so how basing our worth on the way we look or how others look is just insane, fickle and just not ok! Being body positive doesn't mean loving your body in a certain pose or when you've lost a few pounds; it means loving every angle, movement and squish right this very moment!! Wether you lose weight, gain weight, gain muscle, gain fat-ITS OK! Don't fear change, our bodies will never stay the same and fighting against it won't help, let your body move through life as it wishes, let it take up as much space as it wants and let it LIVE! Forgetting what we've been told all our lives is hard but 'ideals' come and go and beauty standards change so keeping up with them would be impossible, exhausting and a waste of a life -the one constant is your body, your wonderful vessel that guides you through, show it some care, some love and some respect. You deserve this.

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Na sociálnych sieťach vs v skutočnom živote

It's been a while since I've done a posed vs relaxed but I know how many of you guys love them ❤️ . Both of these poses are beautiful. The media would try to tell me only one of them is but NAAHHHH because that comes from an ignorant, one-sided, profit making, beauty ideal that I AINT HERE FOR. . Our bodies move, grow and change shape all day everyday. It's been hounded on us for so long that only a still image in which we are posed and tensed is beautiful but it's simply not true… jiggle, rolls, fat, cellulite, extra skin (fanx pregnancy I love ya) are glorious, beautiful and REAL. . I could 'pose' all my photos, make myself fit a little better into the mould that society wants me to but then i would miss out on being my glorious self, further strengthen the hold the media's 'beauty ideal' has on us and put out a message I don't want to send… . Love yourself for who you are in this moment ❤️ . These are not control underwear, just high waisted briefs and my underwear set is from @bouxavenue

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Instagram vs. realita

Gym selfies. Let's talk about them. I'm sure you're all aware of the epically fake gym selfies going around and the white, slim, tall, photoshopped, filtered etc women who are a part of them and I'm pretty sure many of you have scrolled through with envy and wished you could look the same when in reality 90% of those people don't look like that anyway and you are seeing them from one angle, one highly posed and tensed angle. Now I'm not saying gym selfies or selfies of any kind are bad! If you want to take a selfie in the gym then go for it sistaaaa, just know that every angle of your body is beautiful. Every angle can be celebrated. I used to gym a lot but recently I haven't been able to, my mental health, endo and the fact that I have a child have prevented me from doing so. I enjoy the gym and it gives me a mood boost so I do want to try and go more for self love practise. I don't really talk about my gym time much as I don't want to be a negative source of comparison for anyone struggling with over exercising. A GYM SELFIE ISN'T AN INDICATION OF HEALTH OR SELF WORTH. Recovering from an eating disorder and over exercising at a young age meant I had to learn to exercise for me, not just for aesthetics or as punishment. I had to learn that its okay to take 2 years off whilst I birthed my son, it was okay to take a year off to relax when my body was recovering, healing from intense care, fears of losing my life and weeks in hospital at the peak of anorexia. I had to learn that I love my body and therefore I want to get it moving from time to time to keep healthy for myself and my son, this can be a little walk to the shop or an hour bouncing about it the gym to music, whatever makes me happy at the time. If going to the gym drains you and you hate it or if leaves feeling guilty if you don't go then stop. Just stop going. There are tons of other exercises you can do, you don't need to force yourself to do the 'in thing'. Do what makes you happy, always ⭐️💚 Ps. All I did in these gym clothes was eat brownies and dairy free ice cream. Big thanks to @caam95_ for the love today to keep me going/motivated.

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Uhol pohľadu

Same day, same body 🍑 I wanted to highlight again the sheer power of posing. Even without photoshop or strategic lighting the body can look entirely different. How many of the photos online that you scroll past with envy do you think are posed, photoshopped, with strategic lighting? I can promise you it's ALOT. I no longer scroll past with envy, my heart is just heavy wondering what a world we live in when someone can't feel beautifully perfect in their own natural state. Now I'm not saying a cheeky pose is bad, I love a good hand on hip etc but feeling the need to bend and distort your body in order to feel accepted is not ok. Seeing unposed bodies is so important to educate, if all we see are photoshopped posed bodies then we are going to doubt our own natural shape. Not ok. Let's change the world, @bodyposipanda @chooselifewarrior🌏🍑🌈

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Rozdiel medzi fotografiami je len niekoľko sekúnd

Same girl, same time. 〰 Spanx etc can change your body hugely. Control underwear is everywhere. Companies telling us to smooth our lines, control and flatten our tummies, Nip in or waist. Forever making us feel not good enough, not societally perfect enough. Every celeb under the sun has even sporting waist clinchers and control Spanx and many of us compare our natural form to these control garment figures 〰 You don't NEED to change a thing or sweat your ass off in a tight uncomfortable garment under your clothes. You don't need to suck in anything or change the shape of anything. (Of course if you want to then that's okay too- the difference between wanting to and NEEDING to/feeling like you HAVE to is key) 〰 Both these photos are beautiful to me, the difference here is that I feel far more comfortable on the right mentally and physically. The photo on the left isn't how my body actually looks and I'm uncomfortable with that. The photo on the right is me, my natural form and to me, personally it's the most beautiful thing to be comfortable without the need to change💜 〰

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Podobne aj tu

Same day, same time just a pose difference. ❌NEWS FLASH❌ I BLOAT!!!!!! Oh… I guess it wasn't newsflash worthy… because pretty much every single person I know does too. Yet for some reason it's seen as 'unattractive' and 'undesirable' when it's just normal! 〰 False alarm before but this really is… ❌NEWS FLASH❌. ITS OKAY TO BLOAT. It's also okay if you have a larger, round tummy without bloat because all stomachs are damn beautiful. Literally every single one of them… yes, even yours. We are loved, valid and powerful beyond measure ❤️mil

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2 hodiny práce s make-upom vs. prirodzenosť

❌You can't airbrush away insecurity. ❌You can't get self love from an app. ❌You can't hide self hate under a edited selfie. There was a time when I wouldn't dream of posting a photo of myself online without at LEAST a heavy filter. 〰 The real me wasn't: ❌Worthy enough ❌Pretty enough ❌Special enough. ❌Beautiful enough. I got comments of 'woahhh beautiful babe' and all the rest which gave me brief moments of confidence;slowly turning into deep, low self loathing… 〰 All editing/filtering my selfies did was make me feel more ashamed of my natural face, more engrained into beauty ideals and basing my self worth on how I look;making me hate myself further. 〰 I wish I knew then the real me is: ✅Worthy ✅Beautiful ✅special ✅unique ✅always photo ready. Do you truly know what the real you looks like? When was the last time you studied/appreciated your face? WE ARE ALL BLOODY BEAUTIFUL AS WE ARE . . Inspired by my squid @selfloveliv

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Čo zverejním vs. čo nikdy nezverejním

I’ve got a whole load of crap going on right now and I’m still subconsciously ashamed of appearing weak and vulnerable. ~ I have every right in the world (just as everyone does) to fall and crumble into myself whenever I need to but I can’t allow myself to without feeling guilty or ashamed. It’s an awful pressure I put on myself to appear strong/warrior like. ~ I’ve realised recently that appearing strong and warrior like isn’t always standing tall with a smile on my face; it’s allowing myself to fall, to cry and to feel whilst knowing that it will pass and brighter days will come. ~ My mental/physical health is going through a world of grief right now so my days of needing to crumble are getting more frequent and you know what? It’s perfectly damn okay. I am a warrior when I fall. I am a warrior when I stand tall. I am strong when I push through. I am strong when I cry and feel. 👊🏻👊🏻👊🏻

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V najťažšom období života Millie dokonca myslela na samovraždu. Ale na sociálnych sieťach to vyzeralo takto: 7 hodín pred pokusom o samovraždu

There’s no ‘look’ to being suicidal. It can be smiles or tears. It can be running mascara or perfect make up. It can be silence or screaming. It can be hurt or laughing. It can be fear or acceptance. . We lose 1000’s of people a year to suicide. We lose many of them due to stigma. Many go without help because they’re afraid they don’t ‘look’ suicidal,many slip through the cracks and suffer in silence. . Suicidal tendencies can present themselves in many ways. If someone tells you they’re suicidal take them seriously, listen and take action.

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Depresia vs. depresia na sociálnych sieťach

ONE MORE TIME FOR THOSE IN THE BACK. Depression👏🏻does👏🏻not👏🏻have👏🏻a👏🏻face👏🏻 ~ I received a heartbreaking message of a sweet, young babe today who said she didn’t feel as though anyone took her depression seriously because of her appearance and that she seems too ‘chipper’ but inside she wants to die. WELL THIS ONE IS FOR YOU BABY G. ~ ❌Don’t you dare judge someone’s mental well-being on how they look. ❌Don’t tell someone they don’t look depressed. ❌ Don’t ever deter someone from getting help because you feel they don’t look depressed enough. ~ It’s the simplest of the most simple concepts yet our ignorance is still not letting that sink in… we are losing lives… beautiful, important and fucking radiant lives because we’re not getting past this stigma. Mental health doesn’t have a look. Stop it.

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Dobrá mama vs. stále dobrá mama

ENOUGH WITH THE PARENTING SHAMING. Please and thank you. . Mental illness does NOT make me a bad mother. If anything it’s made me a more determined, more empathetic and more appreciating mother. . Sure, days are hard and sometimes I can barely keep myself and Eli together but life will never be without it’s struggles, it doesn’t make someone bad or a neglectful parent. It’s hard enough being a young mother and having shame bombs thrown at you left, right and centre about the bottles you use and what you’re feeding your Babba without shaming one another for our mental health. Support, don’t shame. . Shaming leads to people feeling ashamed (surprise surprise) which makes them less likely to get help for their problems, making them suffer alone and afraid. . If you’re a parent suffering with your mental health then know you are NOT a bad parent because of it. Reach out for support, I know it’s tough but you’re not alone and never will be. Fight. You got this. 💛

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